Busyness is Ruining Us


Busyness, that stuff in my life that takes away from what I want to be doing, from what I should be doing, from the relationships I need to be nurturing and deepening to survive.  It’s that email or text I get at home that I just have to check on because I’m of course the only person that can fix the problem or answer the question.  It’s the saying yes to everything that comes my way, from ministry opportunities and extra assignments at work to filling up every evening or weekend with dinner dates and activities. 

None of these things are intrinsically bad, but when they take away from the priorities in life, they can be detrimental not only to you, but to those around you.  Some say we, “…equate busyness with worth. A means of gaining recognition and being affirmed as a person, busyness also has nourished weeds that, in our adult years, now threaten to choke our ministries, marriages, and family life.”[1] Is this true, are we taking on the world, so that we don’t have to be alone, so that we can say, ‘hey, look what I’ve done, look what I’ve accomplished, and look at how many people admire me?’ 

The most recent issue of Relevant magazine has an interview with Tony Hale of Veep and Arrested Development where he brings up a valid point of why we are so busy, why we are trying so hard, he states, “If you don’t find something greater than yourself who knows you – knows truly who you are – and you feel known by them, then you’re going to spend the rest of your life trying to be known by a ton of other people.”[2]  Interesting isn’t it?  We try to fill our lives with stuff, with activities, with people we may not even really know, and this is what we get for it…

Here’s a little list of busyness symptoms I came up with:

-       Constant stress/anxiety about today, tomorrow, and the future
-       Inability to concentrate on the simplest things
-       Can’t watch a full 22 minute TV show without whipping out the laptop/phone (this is me)
-       Checking Facebook messages in the evening while in bed and answering late night texts (late night for me is umm 9pm, haha)
-       You look at the calendar and feel overwhelmed
-       No time for prayer/reflection
-       You eat at your desk at work while still working
-       Can’t hold a conversation/listen because there are too many things going on in your head that need attention
-       After going out with friends you feel even more drained rather than rejuvenated and in good spirits
-       Physical ailments may be present as well i.e. headaches, feelings of depression, etc.

I’m sure there are many more, but for sake of brevity I’ll stop. Feel free to make a list of your own distractions and symptoms. 

In all, busyness is a real problem with real consequences and our ‘do more get more’ society isn’t helping a bit.  Technology was supposed to simplify life instead of congesting it.  Work now follows us home and in many cases we are expected to respond even though we are not compensated.  Our true, real, and most important relationships are suffering greatly and for what, seriously, for what?  Tune in next week for the answer.



[1] Steve McKinley, John Maxwell and Greg Asimakoupoulos, The Time Crunch: What to Do When You Can't Do It All, Mastering Ministry’s Pressure Points (Sisters, OR: Multnomah Books, 1993), 20.
[2] Donald Miller and Tony Hale.  Relevant Magazine. Interview. Issue 62, March/April 2013.

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